Today, I read on one of my friend’s blogs (Melissa over on “Melissa’s Meanderings“) that her beloved cat of 16 years old, Milo crossed over to The Rainbow Bridge today from cancer. 16 years! I’ve never had a cat live that long with me and for some reason, I’ve been asking people I know, how they let go of animals they love so dearly and how did they move through the grieving process.
I know many people whom don’t view their fur babies as than anything other than pets and think it’s just another sad factor of life and that’s that. But if you know me at all through my blog, my two cats, Miss Bella and Sele mean the world to me and the thought of one day having to say goodbye literally hurts my heart and soul.
I’ve written before aboutf Tabitha, one of my beautiful girl cats who I had to say goodbye much too early. I don’t know if it’s any better or worse having to say goodbye when you haven’t known a beloved pet that long (as was the case with Tabitha) or having an animal companion like Melissa’s “Milo” for such a long time. I don’t think either case is easy, it’s just inevitable.
I worry about myself sometimes and how devastated I’ll feel over loving Miss Bella and Sele, but in some strange way, I know I won’t be the only one who will miss their furbabies more than they miss their human family members. O.k. some people would consider this very morbid, but I’d rather not know them. I’m not that close to my parents, and I’m not saying that I wouldn’t grieve horribly for them when they die, but it’s not the same. One thing we all do share in common is our deep love for our pets.
My dad and stepmom had a Sheltie dog named, Mandy who really was like a daughter (more than I was or probably ever will be and she grew sick as she grew older. My father’s mother was also dying at 100 years old the time Mandy grew sick. When my grandmother died, a funeral was held and life went on. But when Mandy passed, and I called to talk to them, there was a message on the telephone to anyone who called, saying that they just weren’t in a place to talk to anyone because of Mandy’s passing. I felt closer to them than, and really “got them.”
Thankfully Miss Bella and Sele are only six years old and in very good health. Well, Sele is a little chubby, but she IS healthy and Miss Bella is sleek and quick. Yet, I know that the only permanent thing in life is impermanence and one day they won’t be with me on the physical realm. I refuse to believe that there’s any form of heaven where we won’t be greeted by our furbabies.
So, I’d really like your help in knowing how you manage to deal with the knowledge that one day you’ll have to say goodbye to your furbabies, or how you have in the past.
I found these resources on pet loss and just wanted to share them.
and here are some books I happened to find that I know won’t save me from the impact of losing Miss Bella and Sele but will help me feel, that I’m not so alone or strange when they both cross over to the Rainbow Bridge.
So, please if you want to, stop by Melissa’s blog and let her know you care, or light a virtual candle or just say a simple prayer or blessing, that would be wonderful.
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